How NOT to make people believe in something

Yes, it’s back to my typical anti-fundamentalist rantings. You know why? Because I hate religious coercion by parents toward their children. It is ineffective and will definitely pull your child AWAY from your faith, not towards it. To give you a little backstory: I am nearly 20 years old. My family have been fundamentalist Christians since I was twelve. Since the age of twelve, I have had bible-reading, church attendance and adherence to Christian social mores pushed on me. I was surrounded by Christian literature, Christian music and Christian friends, and I lived in predominantly Christian areas. All that would make me a good Christian girl, right? NOT!

By the age of seventeen I had become a full-fledged atheist and had started coming out as gay. After all those prayers for me to be ’straight’ and all those ‘demons’ being rebuked out of me, guess what? I STILL LIKE GIRLS! How do you like that now? At 19, I’ve realised that I am gender-variant. Even after the demon-rebukings, I still feel more masculine! Guess Beelzebub didn’t cause it, right? You got it. That’s who I am and that’s how I’m going to be. It wasn’t my choice for me to be this way. However, I am no problems with being who I am and I’m ready to deal with it.

Guess what? The coercion didn’t work! Look, how many people get so angry at their family that they’ve unofficially changed their surnames out of symbolic reasons (and plan on doing it officially), despise Bible reading of any sort and don’t want anything to do with most of Christian culture because of the emotional scarring? All that religious coercion EVER did was make me angry and bitter towards them. It didn’t bring me closer to God. I’m a naturally sceptical person in the first place; I don’t believe anything at face value, usually. I tend to try to learn as much about something as possible. Fundamentalism doesn’t square well with me in the first place. But having it force-fed was even more torturous for me. I actually still have to deal with it to this day.

To all fundamentalist parents: You may be fundamentalists, but your kids might not be. Let your children discover their own paths in life. If you don’t, you might end up with kids like me! *grin*

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